#124 - March 10, 2009, 11:35 p.m.
I've seen quite a few people say that "X" community is/was better. I hate to say it, but I have been a part of gaming communities for a very long while. They're not better or even worse, just different. Different communities function differently, have different expectations of each other, different thresholds for what is and isn't appropriate behavior among each other etc. What one community might find offensive, another might not bat an eye at. You as individuals have different expectations of your experiences when interacting with others.
That said, I've always held to the idealogy of never letting someone see you sweat. For some people, it's the very elixir for their joy. If they never get under your skin though, they never get that joy. On another end, you get what you give most times. If you're not getting what you want from people, find other people who are more compatible. I think it's one of the biggest strengths of a large community that people overlook, that there are so many different types of people that you're bound to find the right ones that you fit with best. Then, when you do find them, spend your time with them as much as possible, thus why so many people enjoy being a part of a guild. It's all about like minded people with common goals and interests.
We're all not that far from each other and "blame" shouldn't be assigned to any particular group. I've met some people who were considered "trolls" that were actually very intelligent and capable/likeable people. Given the chance to show who they really were, they showed they were much more than the facade they put out.
In game, if all else fails, inappropriate behavior can be reported, people can be ignored, and you can choose never to group with them if you wish.
Beware of your memories as well. In time, people can become jaded based on their initial experiences or expectations. Memories can alter and things can begin to look rosier than they actually were. You forget the bad moments and hold on to the good ones (hopefully). The best thing to do though is find ways to recapture those good times, or look for new ones you can really enjoy.